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Constructive
Communication Skills For Child Care Professionals
Resolving Issues
Julie Bartkus
If you have an issue with
your co-worker, work it out directly with her. You don’t need to
tell me about it; said a director to her staff. From there the
director thought the co-workers would talk about the issue and it
would be resolved.
To her surprise, the same
issue surfaced again - this time in the form of gossip. The
director was confused. Why is this issue being gossiped about when
it should have been resolved? Why is it that staff members seem to
take joy in spreading around information about others, information
that has nothing to do with them? And - don’t they think about how
they communicate and how it can damage their professional
relationships with their co-workers?
Can you relate to this
scenario? Getting staff to resolve issues and conflicts on their
own is a major frustration that leaders in the child care profession
have shared with me. It seems like staff would rather vent and
complain about the situation as opposed to working it out directly.
Why?
As a director, you can step
back and see the damaging impact to morale when issues and conflicts
are not resolved - this doesn’t mean your staff does. Staff members
often are not fully aware of how their actions play a major role in
determining team morale. Nor are they aware of how the way they
decide to communicate dictates what kind of day they will have –
positive or negative. So that’s one reason.
Another reason issues might
not be resolved is because staff members do not know how to approach
the person in a way that they will feel positive about and
comfortable with. I often hear staff say: I don’t want to hurt
her feelings. Or worse yet they exclaim: What if she won’t
talk to me after I confront her about the issue. After all, I have
to work with her all day long.
Another reason highly worth
exploring is - staff members may not have a formula in place (a
formula that is universal for the entire team to follow) on how to
go about resolving issues.
So what’s a director to do?
Well, if getting staff to
resolve issues is a troublesome challenge for you, start by engaging
your staff in a conversation about the realities of what happens
when issues are left to linger. Discuss the impacts on morale and
how it makes them feel individually when there’s an issue left with
no resolution. Encourage them to think about the time that is
wasted and how the gossip that may occur as a result of issues not
being resolved directly keeps everyone’s minds drenched in
negativity.
Then, at your next staff
meeting, have your team practice resolving mock situations using a
universal formula for resolving issues. This is a formula that you
provide them. It should include specific steps for resolving issues
positively and directly. Everyone will laugh, have fun, and think
differently about resolving issues.